Resonate Therapy
As the great poet, E. E. Cummings wrote: “Now the eyes of my eyes are open.”
In this one quotation from the poet, painter and writer Edward Estlin Cummings, we are invited to consider the consciousness behind our gaze. How it is to let ourselves see, not just with our initial sight, but to integrate a wholly multifaceted vision of our own reality. How our senses can elaborate on the pitch, tone, colour and visceral texture of the being in front of us.
I consider this seeing to be paramount when seeing a client either in coaching or therapy. The intimacy of sharing a gaze from eyes to eyes, to see the peaks and troughs of their physiological experience as they move somewhere in front of me. But there is also movement behind their eyes. Behind their eyes, there is a whole other world of living. And it is through the medium of self-expression, painting, drawing, singing, music, poetry, storytelling, dance, sculpting, growing, creating, that this internal world comes to life and we can share in some of its shadow and it's magic.
Portraiture for me has been a lifelong place of magic, as I layer the edges of colour around the face I imagine what is behind this surface of the face. What micro movements of sentient expression express something of the story of this human. My curiosity of their presence is the motivation to express them through the paint, to capture how it is to be real.
We can use the medium of coaching and therapy to depict this reality within.
Accessibility
When working with clients one of the most invisible internal and external constructs that affect their daily living is the theme of accessibility. By this I mean, our ability to access our environment, resources, relationships, and opportunities. When our nervous system or parts of the psyche remain living in the past, and pre-determining every moment ahead as though it will be just like before or worse, then the real time momentary reality is not filtered into the body or psyche in truth, but a fragment of it - it is a memory being projected from the past, into the present moment. In this time a suspension of opportunity is created, a no-man's land or ground hog day, where we may perpetually reach, reach and reach again for something that feels painfully close, and yet so far. This inability to grasp the rod, can then further compound shame cycles that can leave the nervous system and parts of the psyche blending more and more into survival responses, such as the parasympathetic dorsal shut down, and the emergence of suicidality. In this challenge of accessibility, so often what aids someone in this struggle is acknowledging, the accessibility is not a linear equation, 'a one size fits all', and is instead full of nuanced and textural context. Validation is key to make sense of the struggle, and remove the internal gaslighting that happens within their psyche. It might sound something like, "It was so hard for you to motivate that part of yourself that really wanted to work towards that promotion, when so much of your system believed you were not safe if you became more visible, or put your head above the parapet". In this instance supporting someone to evaluate what would enable this change to manifest in a way that feels safe for their nervous system would greatly aid them achieving their goal in a sustainable and embodied manner.
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RESONATE COACHING
Imagination and creativity are a key in the door to unlocking our binary thinking and beliefs. Once we can learn to modulate the repetitive rhythm of fear in our nervous system and parts of self that store the needs and fears of the past.
We can uncover an intrinsic and ancient wisdom, that was always there, just out of sight. In a creatively informed coaching session, bringing into sight the unconscious or denied truth can be a challenging and liberating experience. During your time as a client of Resonate Coaching, I will endeavour to support you to access your inner wisdom and potential. To arrive at conscious choice-fullness and awareness of your individuality in a wider complex system of the world and how you inhabit it.
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resonate
"To Resonate, is like tuning into healing on a micro and macro scale.
By encountering the multicellular and metaphysical world that holds the dancing chaos of light and dark, whilst singing a deep, beautiful, primordial song."
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rest
"Dear Friend,
As you are, go deeper.
Do not fear the rippling shadow
or the collecting debt.
For your soul holds the pearls of
a thousand storms,
polished upon your every breath."
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The starting point: Finding that magic point in creativity, where the image becomes the vehicle for destinations of new experence.
Knowing there is no one set direction to head in. Just trust in your motion forward as you make marks.
And savour the ending.
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creative process
Neurodiversity
There is increasing need for
institutions to meet the provisions of neurodiversity, whether this presents as ASAD, ADHA, addictions, anxiety,
depression, self-harm or learning disability the environment is to be sculpted around the neurobiological reality of both individual and collective needs.
When we create safety within the nervous system of an individual, this acts as a multiplying platform for others to engage and co-regulate, expanding the sense of safety and hence collectively achieving brilliance together.
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The world is vivid.
The world is full of choice.
The world is rage full and innocent.
The world is resuced daily by the passenger of life.
The world is speaking to itself when it speaks through us.
The world closes and opens doors into opportunity.
The world is resonating with world in music, art, nature, community.
You are a world inside a world.
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spectrum
I have gained both personal and professional experience of supporting those in the deepest crisis and having survived extreme adverse life events.
How we weather the truth is testament to our commitment to facilitate change. Change is needed in our communities and culture; our young people our dependant on us having faith they can change the world for the better. Even in the face of generational difference, if we can begin to find strength in truth then we will be providing our young people with the hope that their truth is real and matters to their community.
As stated in the Government's 2020 PSHEE manifesto, “It’s not enough to leave Personal Development to chance by relying on extra-curricular activities and doing so might mean the most disadvantaged pupils miss out.” My skill is to ‘see’ an individual in the present moment but also within a wider system, I can share this way of seeing with others. As we aid a young persons understanding of their own personal life narrative this can be guided towards fulfilling purpose.
young people
vision
Without vision autonomy becomes illusive, and we merge facelessly into a system we can then result in resenting as we have been unable to individuate into our own potential. Developing upon self-expression, communication skills and self-regulation will aid the development of individuation and capacity to birth your dreams.
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Reconfiguring perspective in the face of adversity is an important skill when recovering from trauma; to begin to build upon a world that is different to the place in which we wish to escape or transform, we need to connect with our imaginations to build this image and mentalise it into fruition.
This is how I have enabled myself to transform those things in my life which were no longer serving or nurturing my best interests. This is a fundamental skill I teach to clients wishing to begin a therapeutic journey; which enables them to transform themselves from the inside out.
adversity
An inner child can be neither denied nor ignored.
They are witnesses.
Once we were consciously active participants in life with them.
Our consciousness became more layered. We lived less with them, and they lived more within us unconsciously.
If we truly stood witness to them, we might capture the image of their iridescent potential illuminating a dark night sky.
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The inner child
The four d's
When working in the body we have even more need for our language to be accessible and simple as we depart from the intellectual mind.
When considering activation and mapping triggers in the body and how to scale the dysregulation.
These four words can make a lot of sense of how we get stuck in old patterns.
Am I feeling?
DISGUST
DISTRUST
DISLIKE
DIS-EASE
So often in attachment-based trauma we move into DENIAL when feeling these sensations.
Check yourself when these sensations are increasing and seek support from inner adult figures who have care and love for you, or alternatively turn towards those that you trust in life to share your feelings. In the best-case scenario, you may identify you are feeling triggered and you can reality check what about the exchange or person triggers you. Bringing awareness to seeing a person through a trauma lens. And at worst, you may be able to identify that someone in your life may not be nurturing your best interests. For younger parts, part of their trauma was staying silent, each time you voice their concerns is an opportunity to re-integrate them into the safe hub of your present, through validation and care. The body is integral to abridging this process, as the body and the parts needs to feel the safety now of un-silencing, and no longer being in denial.
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